Real Help for Parents of Teens in Recovery
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From the
book, Sober Coaching
Your Toxic Teen
an interactive guide
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this PageAt West Carter High School in Olive Hill, just about everyone knows someone who has a drug problem. And many are fed up and fighting back.
Those fighters include the Champions Against Drugs student group that does anti-drug skits in grade schools. And these art class students are fighting back -- sketching some possible T-shirt logos for the upcoming “Screen and Clean” project.
The project plan is to provide take home drug testing kits to requesting parents and -- with parental permission -- give in-school drug tests to students. Every student we talked to says they're in favor of it.
“If there's a party and kids are tempted to do drugs, and the parents might test them when they get home, they'll think twice," student Morgan McGlone said. Read more...
Read chad's Article--it was written for you! Click here
I've long held that teen treatent for addiction does not work--it makes the problem worse--I've taken a lot of heat for this--especially from those who run the teen treatment centers! But my research and experience bore me out--now others research is now showing what I have said for a long time--put teens in adult treatment and they have a chane--put them in teen treatment and you make the problem worse! Read this Time article--finally the other professioanls are waking up!
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You came here because you want to be a good parent and need help dealing with one of two situations. You either suspect your teen is abusing drugs or you know they are a teenage addict. You think s/he might be abusing alcohol and drugs or may be addicted to them. You want your teenager to stop using because you understand the horrible consequences of drug abuse but drug treatment isn't always the best first choice. Unfortunately, your troubled teen does not seem to understand the dire consequences of their actions, or if your drug abusing teen does, won’t stop abusing drugs.
You definitely want to know that the actions you take are effective. Although there are no guarantees in this serious business, there are certain actions a parent can take that will help steer the young person in the right direction. You have been a Life Coach to your youngster for many years. Now it is time to change the focus and become a Sober Coach.
The information on this site is an overview of the book by Shelly Marshall, best selling addiction author and her brother, Dr. Michael J Marshall, professor and clinician in private practice.
Sober Coaching the Toxic Teen,
An
interactive guide for teaching parents and primary caregivers how
to manage a drug crisis
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Final thought before you begin
it is extremely important that you understand how little influence you have on your adolescent's behavior once they walk out your door. No matter how diligent, involved, or "close" you are to your child, once they walk out the door it's a different ball park and you aren't the coach! Judith Harris's book, The Nurture Assumption, is the best explanation you will find on this issue.
Despite what some authorities tell you, the latest "State of Our Nation's Youth" survey finds that most teens are not pressured to use drugs. It is just a convenient way for people to shift the blame to their friends. But think about it. Who are their friends? Your neighbor's kids, whose parents think the same thing, "My poor kids are being pressured to do drugs by the neighbors kids!"
You can visit Focus on Adolescence for a full list of great articles exploring this important concept. The most critical factor for at-risk behavior in your child is the behavior of his or her friends, no matter what you have taught them at home. If your child's friends are using drugs or displaying self-destructive behaviors, then your child is doing the same. Know who your teen associates with and encourage healthy peer relationships.
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By the time most parents know they need this, it's too late.
Are you looking for information and suspect there may be problems but nothing definite has happened? Your youngster is curious, you may be concerned about his new friends, he/she has begun middle school, and you want to do the right thing? Then you are probably looking for prevention type information. If your young person is not yet in trouble with alcohol and other drugs, then you are in Prevention Mode.
They are not bullet proof, although they think they are.
If your child is abusing drugs and alcohol already, been arrested, kicked out of school, or even overdosed because of drugs and alcohol then you are in Crisis Mode. When the crisis has reached this point, you need to be much more aggressive in your stance against drugs and your diligence in learning all you can about the disease of addiction. The rules have changed. You are not in prevention mode any longer, you have entered Crisis Mode.
The Winning Hand
Is your child on drugs?
Remove all doubt and find out if your child is on drugs by answering these simple questions.
Free use
These worksheets are compliments of Shelly and Dr. Marshall for your personal use. They are excerpted from their book, Sober Coaching Your Toxic Teen.
Stages of Addiction
For parent and addict
Are you in the early, middle or chronic stages of addiction in reaction to your child? Find out.
Benefits of Peer Preference
Make use of your child's choices
Get :"peer pressure" out of your mind. Kids want to be like their peers . So use "peer preference" to your advantage.
Raising Teens
From MIT
Although this is not the Marshall's work, it is a good book for principles of raising teens in general. Find the Five Basics of Parenting Adolescents, with a list of strategies for each. Also featured is a list of Ten Tasks of Adolescence
Adobe PDF
You need an Adobe Reader to open all of our downloads. This program allows you to view and print all the worksheets. Download the Adobe Reader (free) .
Recovery Coach Pledge
The rules
It takes discipline and consistency to be a sober coach, especially when it is our children. Learn the dos and don'ts.
Parents Bill of Rights
Your rights are as important as theirs
Remember that if your lose yourself in trying to help your child, you will lose the child too. Put the welfare of the whole family first and the rest follows naturally.